About Cindy Noir
With an amassed social media following of over 800,000 followers across platforms, Cindy Noir has a voice to be reckoned with and she is ready to take her voice from behind the phone screen, on to stages all over the world
Cindy Noir is here to talk about and redefine how we view Abstinence in the modern world!
I’m Cindy Noir—writer, speaker, and the voice behind a movement that provides a new form of what it means to take your power back. I’ve lived loud, loved hard, and learned the hard way, that how you value yourself as a Woman, directly impacts your quality of life. After a few years in my early 20’s of embracing and expressing my sexuality, I found myself feeling more empty and depleted from these experiences, that empowered and emboldened. Out of fear for the quality of my future if I continued down this risky road, I made the decision to put the “heaux” on pause. Not because I was ashamed, but because I knew I deserved better than the casual sex and the subpar connections I was settling for. My decision wasn’t rooted in fear, religion, or anyone’s expectations. It was rooted in a deep desire to come home to myself.
As beautiful as my abstinence journey ended up being, it was ignited by ugly heartbreak and harsh realizations. It started with me looking in the mirror and honestly admitting to myself that although I was claiming in public to want to be loved and treated properly, I was allowing everything BUT that in private. Not understanding the root reason behind this cognitive dissonance, I shut down shop and began the journey that would ultimately change my life for the better. My experience of abstaining taught me that abstinence isn’t about withholding—it’s about reclaiming. It’s not about proving you're worthy for a future partner. It’s about remembering you're worthy right now. The kind of worthy that doesn’t need to be earned, negotiated, or delayed.
With my experiences and lessons learned from my abstinence journey, I am here to share my message with the world. It is my goal to challenge the archaic definitions of abstinence, often rooted in male-centered ideology, and provide a modern perspective. I am here to share my story in rooms filled with Women who are tired of being policed, labeled, and told they have to pick between pleasure and peace. Given the current political climate we are living in, there are many Women who are looking to embark on a similar journey, but have no guide or direction on how to do so. I am here to be a lighthouse in these shaky waters of our current society, helping these Women navigate the waves and make it back to shore safely. I want to reframe the narrative around abstinence and celibacy, not as sacrifice for the approval of men, but as self-love and spiritual clarity. My mission is to represent the women who were once sexually free, still sex-positive, but now choose themselves—publicly, boldly, and unapologetically. I'm not here to tell anyone what to do with their bodies. I’m just here to provide a resource and an option for Women to choose themselves and put themselves first.